A trail of shared experiences.

This month I'm on a sabbatical from the online selling of all our excess; however I am still about the business of downsizing. As I travel to visit family and friends before we head West, I think I am finding my over-stuffed need to be needed is what I am unpacking... one unrealistic self-expectation at a time.

My five children are all happily married and perfectly capable of making their own decisions in life, and although I hope that my grand-kids will love me; I subscribe to thought that 'Grand-parents are an optional extra in life" (Gravy on the meat!) What a blessing to have this month to spend some precious moments cuddling them and being WITH them, instead of merely being IN CONTACT.
It will be wonderful to be on the spot when my next grand baby is born shortly, and I think I will miss them more than they'll miss me.
As I visit each household, I can imagine leaving a trail of breadcrumbs behind me that will one day bring me safely back in proximity to my true 'home', where my heart lives. The photos that I have brought with me are finding their place among the relevant kids...a permanent reminder of things in life we've done together.
We have no idea of how long we may be distanced, or how many trips back we can fit in... but what ever the future holds, I know we blazed a trail that they may choose to follow closely. Even if their paths only cross ours and follow a general direction towards the goal of eternity, I shall be satisfied.

 

1 Corinthians 11:1

Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.
 

Simplicity takes planning and effort...

A few weeks into the process of downsizing and reducing and I am only just beginning to realise what a HUGE job this is. Yesterday I managed to pack my entire wardrobe (including shoes) into one suitcase. I feel like I have too much still, but have a month of practice 'suitcase living' coming up that will help me settle on the final items.

Today I began the task of planning my 'medium-sized' suitcase. This one is not as easy to figure out as it involves decisions about my leisure time and what crafty pursuits I can take with me. For someone who once made it a goal to learn something new every year, to choose those worthy of this next semi-nomadic lifestyle is not simple at all!

This week has been more difficult for my husband as he is hit with the reality of our choices, sorting through his beloved mancave and shed. Simplifying will cost him a lot... I pray the benefits will be worth it eventually.  

I also spent hours standing near the scanner in order to preserve memories and documents in digital format. It was not a romantic or glamorous occupation! My feet are sore, my nerves feeling a little frayed and I am ready to have a break from it all... and yet impatient to complete the task. 

Of course I had to finish the garden I had newly started before our the crossroad of our circumstances caused us to take this route. In a way it offered its own solution to my stash of collected shells and natural items.A friend reminded me recently, that it is in the process of creativity that we find ourselves. This embryonic garden bears the marks of my love of bush and beach and all the treasures to be discovered on a nature walk. If this is the last garden I create, I'm satisfied that it bears my true-self signature.                                                                              

“We are all in search of feeling more connected to reality—to other people, the times we live in, the natural world, our character, and our own uniqueness."

 

" Our culture increasingly tends to separate us from these realities in various ways. We indulge in drugs or alcohol, or engage in dangerous sports or risky behavior, just to wake ourselves up from the sleep of our daily existence and feel a heightened sense of connection to reality."

" In the end, however, the most satisfying and powerful way to feel this connection is through creative activity."

 "Engaged in the creative process we feel more alive than ever, because we are making something and not merely consuming, Masters of the small reality we create. In doing this work, we are in fact creating ourselves."

Robert Greene

The Memory Shelf... AKA the Pine Hutch

Of all the pieces of my furniture, the one that best represents the changes happening in our family, has been my Pine Hutch. Purchased second hand for the princely sum of $100, it added a sense of continuity and homey-ness to our existence at a time we were temporarily without a home. 

Having sold our second home, and purchased a block of land in a small country town, we were all set to build our 'dream home'. However, that meant we needed to stay somewhere while the dream became reality. Not as easy as we thought considering it was 1988, and EXPO '88 had arrived on Brisbane's doorstep taking ALL the available rentals as far out along the train line as Caboolture... where we were living!

Initially we shared my sister's house. Hubby, me and 5 kids all jammed into a large built-in verandah, alongside my sister, her hubby and 6 kids. As you can imagine, 4 adults and 11 children in one residence did not prove to be a wise decision. We jumped at the opportunity of a tiny, tiny rental house when it became available... only to find out that it was illegally being relet to us. It was actually a Housing Commission rental, and as such wasn't on the normal rental market. We had 4 weeks to find another place of abode.

I am not sure with all this uncertainty what drew me to the purchase of the Hutch. Maybe the images of country pioneering life, and the promise of eventual HOME SWEET HOME?

I loved it from the start, and after what eventuated as 9 months living in a caravan on my Mother's property, and all our furniture in storage (including the Hutch), we were able to set up home again. The Hutch took pride of place in our little dining room, and I filled it with country styled treasures.

We moved to 5 different houses in the next 20 years, and each time the Hutch moved with us. Finding its place in kitchens as a useful pantry, or lounge rooms for mere decoration, and even in a playroom with books, photos and toys as its occupancy.

The last move it made was here to our small rented 'feedlot' half-house. I was so distressed that the dining table and couch would not fit into our small space, and becoming increasingly distressed about the possibility of EVER making this place a home. It was my eldest son, Jonathan, who wisely suggested I make space for one piece of furniture that I loved... the Hutch, and that made all the difference. Once in place with all the familiar items and pretty collection of china and pink glass that I loved, it no longer mattered that we were a bit squished in. It was as if HOME was somehow placed on the shelves amongst those items. 

When I began taking photos to sell my things online... the Hutch was the perfect backdrop as it drew buyers to the same sense of belonging and history. It was no surprise to me that even at a bargain price, it sold for more than the original purchase price. My greatest joy was that it went to live with another family who love it as much as I did.

They are setting up home in an old colonial house and once again the Hutch has pride of place in the dining room. The new owners sent me a message to say how wonderful it looked in their home, and that they were not beyond affectionately 'patting' it on the way past!

BEFORE THE SHABBY CHIC FACELIFT

NOT SO SHABBY BUT CHIC!

I thank my God for all the memories I have of you.

Philippians 1:3